A Tribute to Nancy SPENCE McDOUGLE STEM

by Jo Stem, her daughter-in-law

The first time I met Mama STEM was when my husband took me by his house when we were courting in 1947, 1948, somewhere along there. She was a slim, very attractive lady with high cheek bones. She was 1/4 Indian. She had a dog named Kentucky in her arms. He nearly bit me, but her kind voice forbade him to bite me. She was a wonder. I always loved her and told her someday, I would do something really great for her as she did so much for me. I had no idea it would be 20 years after her death, but I want to tell the world about Mama STEM. She took Bill and me into her home about a month after we were married. Money was very short and she still had the two boys living at home. Wayne was 15 and L.D. was about 12. My Dad had paid $35.00 for the first month's rent for Bill and me and we didn't know what to do. "Come in here with us, she said and she moved Wayne out of the only room in the house that was good to live in and let Bill and me have it. Wayne, she, and L.D. slept out on the back porch. God Bless her. We loved her so much. We had our first child, Jerry Alan STEM while we were living with her and Papa. Jerry was born with asthma. Everyone called him "birdlegs". God saved him through Mama STEM. She cooked onions on the back of the stove (which made the house smell awful) but it saved his life. We did not have $6.00 with which to take him to the Doctor. God saved his life 7 more times before he started to school and it is only through Mama STEM that Jerry is still alive today. L.D. and Mama and I rocked him 24 hours a day for seven weeks. The rockers on the bottom of the chair were worn flat before we quit, but he lived. Thank God, and Thank Mama too. She never gave up. She soon became Mama STEM to our two little girls, but this was about 5 years later and we had at least moved out of her house and up the street about 1 block. Now Carl and Naomi's children began to get desper-ately ill. They would bring the children by to see us when they were on the way to the hospital. Dana was a lovely child. I fixed her hair many times. She was only 12 and only lived 3 months after they told Naomi she had Leukemia. Mama took care of the other smaller children Cindy and Buba when they would bring them by as well as my three children while I worked and helped make a living. We could never have survived without Mama's garden. She fed us and Ruby and Buddy and half the neighborhood. She would set out in the evening air and laugh and talk and swing like there wasn't a worry in the world. She was a leader, not a follower. One day her false teeth broke and she glued them back together with super glue. She called me at work and told me she couldn't get them out of her mouth. I went home and asked her if she wanted to go to the doctor. She said no, but many times after that she had to go. It caused cancer and she refused to move in with us as she was afraid she would incon-venience us. We had 3 children at the time. So she took L. D. and moved into the Stephenville Rest Home where she died. This left L. D. at the Rest Home where he has been ever since. Mama took care of everybody. She fixed the plumbing, washed every Monday,....

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